I was talking with a good friend of mine the other day, and we came upon a subject of friendship, and is there a light switch to friendships?
I have this great friend, whose always been there for me, and i've always been there for him, but there has also been times where we've had our major differences, which in the end resulted into not talking for almost a year. See with this friend, it seems like he decides when he wants to be friends with me and when he doesn't. It's like a constant light switch...on/off, on/off. And i'd like to say that I'm a patient person but, after a while it gets irrating and slightly saddening when this so called "friend" decides for himself when you and him are friends. If i'm his friend, then why does he get to choose when were friends and when were not? He once told me that I was his best friend, and that we'll always be best friends. Why does it seem now that I don't know him at all?
"Friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them."
As previously stated above, friendship is based on trust so that someone or something will not harm them. As I look upon my situation, how can I be friends with this person, if I can't fully trust him in to not hurting me the next time he decides to turn the off switch to our friendship? Should I take the risk of being hurt again in hopes to see the flicker of the lasting light bulb on our friendship? Or should I get enough courage to say that we shouldn't be friends for the fear of the future of being hurt and that final light bulb being burnt out forever? I'm at a crossroad of what to do. I've fought so hard for that light bulb to stay on, but does it seem like the bulb is in it's final surviving hour? Should I replace it or leave it?
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I think that the key thing you are saying is that you realize that patience is important and you have tried to be patient.
ReplyDeleteIt really IS hard to trust someone when they hurt you, but when you are able to look at why they are acting the way they are it is a lot easier to extend forgiveness and plug away at the friendship. "Hurt people hurt people." It's kind of confusing, but completely true. When your friend is feeling insecure and hurt (could be totally unrelated to you) he acts in a way that hurts you. Maybe he just wants to see that you are going to be a true friend and stick with him. Testing your friendship- it is possible that is happening.
I agree that friendship is something that you fight for and should have trust in the friend- but sometimes that means that you trust that your friend will stick with you even when you have hurt them.
I think about Jesus and how many times he was hurt by his friends and yet he still loved and believed in them and was even there for them. Puts a really different perspective on things when we look at it through the eyes of Christ.